Kari's Klimbers - My 23rd Climb - 2025

 

Kari’s Klimbers are taking the stairs again!  Sunday, February 23, 2025

 Steve’s Hustle Link:  Click Here

I’m dealing with a bit of a personal challenge this year – In July, my pancreas ended up in a bucket and they found a malignant tumor.  Soooo, at present, I’m waist deep in chemo therapy and from time to time it’s kicking my butt.  But not too hard.  But hard enough to have one of Kari’s teammates wear my #13 bib in the stairwells this year.  (I will be there cheering everyone on, and at the top via elevator, because I know people.)  It kinda sucks – but it’s also a perspective thang.  Mom & Dad didn’t think I’d survive my teens with my cystic fibrosis.  I’m 64.  That’s, like, 375 in CF years!  Fully half of lung recipients don’t live beyond 5 years – maybe 20% make 10 years.  In April, I’ll have had Kari’s beautiful lungs for 25 years.  Without a glitch.  When my kidneys failed 13 years ago – one of Kari’s friends, Alex, had her hand up in a heartbeat offering her kidney – and it’s worked perfectly since.

This is about what I’ve been given, not what might be taken away.  And all I’ve been given completely overwhelms other aspects of my life.  Between my Laura, Kari and her family, Alex, soooo many medical professionals, Kari’s friends, and just so many friends supporting me - they are the ones who carried me when I needed them.  They are the ones who make survival worthwhile – and I count you among them,  Thanks.

There’s a little phrase that I hope defines me when I go – and I will go – but we’ll work to delay that as much as possible:  Don’t cry because I’m gone.  Smile because I was here.

Over 64 years I’ve been built up to face this nonsense – it still scares the living $hit out of me sometimes – but I still know I have to wander into that dark cave now and then sneering, “Come at me mother f*****, if you dare…”.  We all fight with strength we have – and often we fall back on those surrounding us to recharge.

 

But enough about me – this is about Kari.  25 years ago I was dying.  And then I wasn’t.  My lungs were failing after 39 years of struggling with cystic fibrosis.  And then they weren’t.  25 years ago, a beautiful 17-year-old girl from Iowa passed away.  Her name was Kari.  Kari had told her family how strongly she felt about organ donation – she and her family saved my life.  I now breathe with Kari’s lungs.  Before Kari, I never understood what breathing well felt like – I never had the frame of reference for how I live now.  Breathing with her lungs blows my freaking mind.  This is something I do to keep Kari’s memory alive.

In less than 2 weeks, on Sunday, February 23, for the 23rd time – my team will be taking the stairs 94 floors, 1,600+ steps, in Kari’s memory.

2025 will be my 23rd climb and my team’s 22nd climb with Hustle Chicago for the Respiratory Health Association.  Can you imagine what it feels like to live for 39 years with crappy lungs – dreading any flight of stairs – then receiving a gift of new lungs from a beautiful Iowa girl and her family?  And then meet that family, and connect with friends and volleyball teammates who loved Kari.  And have those friends and teammates come out year after year to celebrate Kari with you?  Then – when you find yourself in trouble again with my kidneys failing, Kari’s friend Alex throws you a rope – gives you a kidney – and allows you to climb for many more years?  They’re good people, and they help me understand who Kari would have become.  And, I get to tell people that I’m slowly being rebuilt into a girl from Iowa.  (Yes – I adore Caitlin Clark…)

 


For the past 21 years I’ve had Kari’s crazy, lovable teammates, #15, #12, #9, #8, #7, #4, and #2 in the stairwells with me – this year Coach Terhark, Kari’s and the girl’s volleyball coach will join us!  In the past, Kari’s family and many others who Kari grew up with have joined us.  I love that they help me honor her.

I do this climb to tell people about Kari – and tell people about her goodness, and the goodness of her family and friends. – and I tell people about Alex, and the importance of organ donation.  And we also do this for people with crappy lungs, like I had.  RHAMC helps people breathe easier – they fund research in lung disease – they help people stop smoking – they help people with lung cancer, pulmonary fibrosis, cystic fibrosis, COPD, asthma, and other respiratory diseases live longer, easier lives.

 

Our cause touched Laura and me in another way.  Nearly 10 years ago, my beautiful mom-in-law was diagnosed with lung cancer in the fall of 2015.  Much to Laura’s dismay, moms and I were partners in mischief and finding the wrong foods to eat, particularly donuts.  When she was diagnosed with lung cancer, mom and I had some long chats about options, and the strength it takes to fight, and sometimes not fight.  She chose to fight.  Ironically – the chemo dramatically shrunk her tumors – it worked.  But it was too toxic for the rest of mom and she did not survive.  We do this to fund research so maybe next time – someone else’s mom-in-law has a better chance of hanging around and sneaking donuts with them.

 

Like so many important causes – Respiratory Health Association needs funding to help others.  If you have a few bucks burning a hole in your pocket, I or anyone on my team would be honored to receive a pledge.  But, more than anything, I’d love it if you would check out my little website and read about the beautiful girl whose lungs I breathe with, as well as the beautiful girl who gave me her kidney – and the people who surrounded them, and surround me now – people who have allowed me to leap tall buildings.

 

To see my Hustle page or pledge me:  Click Here

To see my website about Kari:  www.ClimbingForKari.org

To find someone on my full team (click “Roster”):  Click Here

Nice RHAMC story posted about me and the climb:  Click Here

 

Being surrounded by people who knew and loved Kari, and by people who know and love me, is something that defies description.  The support I’ve received from people like you has allowed me to tell so many people about Kari.  In the past 23 years, our team has raised nearly a half million dollars – because of people like you.  Thank you.  Over the years I’ve done a fair amount of public speaking and, often enough when I walk into a room, more than one person pulls me aside and says, “You’re the one who climbs a hundred stories with your new lungs, and your donor’s friends!”  And often enough, they already know Kari’s beautiful smile…. I am that guy – and I’m proud of that – and more than anything, I want them to know her smile.  I will have Kari’s lungs for nearly 25 years when we climb – and her beautiful friend’s kidney for nearly 13 years.  They have allowed me to more than I’d ever dreamed possible.

And finally, and very important to me – please consider organ & tissue donation and register to be a donor on your state’s donor registry.  And, tell your family how you feel.  I know a beautiful girl from Iowa who knew how she felt, and she told her family.  I think about her every single day.

 Love, Steve

 Steve Ferkau

Chicago, Illinois

Kari’s Klimbers

BreathinSteven@gmail.com

www.ClimbingForKari.org

 

Hustle Link:  Click Here